15 June 2012

it's oh so quiet



My grandparents' house has always been filled with noise.

First there were the sounds of my uncles growing up. Playing basketball with the neighbors in the driveway. Watching the new television. Probably fighting with each other.

Then came my dad, the "surprise." Just as things had started to settle down and my oldest uncle was headed to college, the house was once again filled with the sounds of childhood. A 45-record of the theme song to Batman played endlessly. Gilligan's Island on the television. Dirt bikes in the back field.

Next were the grandchildren: my cousins first, and a decade later me and my sister. Eventually a great-grandson came (not by me or my sister, thankfully). More kids, more noise, more joy.

In recent years the noise hasn't been supplied by children, but instead by my grandfather. Years of working in a factory ruined his hearing. As a result, he would turn the TV volume up to insanely high decibels. Everyone else in the room was then forced to carry out conversations in a low shout. Not that it was any quieter when the TV was off, since shouting was also necessary to have a conversation with my grandfather himself.

But on my most recent visit the house was remarkably quieter. My grandfather has started to have major health issues, and was hospitalized shortly before we left for Florida. There was hope that he might come home, but that has since disappeared. With him gone, the TV is rarely turned on in the day. (My grandmother has always preferred doing puzzles to watching gameshows.) Conversations can actually be had at normal levels. The house just isn't the same.

As I write this, my grandfather is still alive, but probably not for long. He didn't speak much during our visits in the hospital, and slept most of the time. His body is weakening, though he can still squeeze our hands with surprising strength. He still has his sense of humor, which I hope he retains to the very end.

He's still my Grampy. It's still his house. But something is different, and it will never be quite the same.

13 June 2012

more than a feeling



"I remember this city being so much bigger."
"Well, you were so much smaller back then."

It's true. The first time I visited Boston I was 10 years old. I grew up in rural Maine, and at that point in my life it was by far the biggest city I had ever seen. It seemed massive and a bit overwhelming. I couldn't even begin to fathom what a city like Los Angeles or New York was like.

And here I am, back in Boston nearly two decades later. I've lived in the Los Angeles area, and I've visited New York. I've also been to San Diego, Orlando, Tokyo, and Sydney. They are all much bigger than Boston, a city that is much more impressive in my mind than in reality.

Not that Boston isn't a lovely city. At least, I'm sure it can be. The locals were ruder than I expected. The subway a little more confusing than need be. But it does have it's charms: the Freedom Trail is a nice way to spend the day, and see most of the city. Fenway Park may be older than most stadiums, but you get so caught up in the excitement of the game that you hardly notice. Little Italy is a great place to grab lunch.

So cheers to Boston. You might not be the biggest or friendliest, but you are uniquely New England and uniquely yourself.